Lack of trust in your partner

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Ways of resolving a lack of trust ... as a long term upsetting matter
 
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Do you have lack of trust in your partner?
Can you trust them in every situation?
Do you feel secure in your relationship?

Trust
Trust is the key to many forms of happiness in life!
Through clear communication,distrust can be avoided.

Trust is in the glue that holds couples together.
Trust provides a sense of safety and security in a relationship.
When trust fails, people feel unsafe & insecure. The glue is weakened!



Several ways to (re)build trust ...in relationships.
 
Consistency
It is important to  be consistent,
because it builds trust,
in many ways including both
verbal and non-verbal communication.

Example:  If a person says "they will do something",
and they usually do it, that's a form of verbal consistency.


Be a good listener It takes practice to be a good listener.

When your partner is talking to you
about something  important,
make sure you are genuinely listening;
this is how trust grows!

No one wants to feel
that they are talking to someone
who is not listening or caring
about what is being said.
Listening Skills

Practice the techniques
Focus on the content being said
Look for new ideas being said
Hold good eye contact if possible
Repeat meanings in own words
Ask for clarification or more info
Do not interrupt
Deep communications Talking about the weather; is shallow talk.
Talking about our feelings, is deep talk.

Trust can grow when we talk
about out feelings, hopes and dreams.
Live in the present It's important to live in the present; now; and not the past. 

Example: If something  goes wrong today;
don't bring up past mistakes.

It is iImportant to handle issues as isolated situations
and not combine all mistakes or issues into
one big collection of negative events.
Step by step rebuild If we have been hurt in the past,
it can be tricky to trust again;
but little by little it can happen.

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Home Lack of communication tends to cause people to lose trust!
Before cross-examining your partners trustworthiness; look at yourself first.

Nobody is perfect and we should not be so quick to judge our partner,
but look at ourself, our actions and see if we look untrustworthy.

Once we improve things about ourselves, we may see our partner
in a different light! It's important to acknowledge things our partner is doing, which helps build trust.

Acknowledgement builds appreciation; and appreciation
leads to happy and loving feelings.


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